What Women Want

A few weeks ago, over cleaning the kitchen, a house mate told me that he knows what women really want to hear. With arms crossed over my chest and a disbelieving look on my face, I waited for the answer. This is what he said, more or less. "Instead of writing on an online dating form, I love long walks on the beach and romantic dinners, I will write what women really want to hear. I love to cook, clean and vacuum. I think that women should be able to put their feet up at the end of a long day and relax with a glass of wine." By the end of this speech, my jaw was almost on my chest. I was amazed. I don't think I should be that surprised because he is a very smart guy.


I don't know why men think that women are so complicated. We really aren't. We want someone who is there. Romantic walks and candlelit dinners are nice. They really are and most women do enjoy them at some points. I will admit to that. But that's not the most important thing to us. We can deal with being treated like a queen, but that really gets boring after awhile.

At the end of the day, I don't think what women want is really that different from what men want. Or what men don't realize they want. When it comes down to it, we all just really want to be loved. We want to have someone look at us and say that we are accepted and loved just as we are. We will still be loved should we change, and also if we stay the same. We want to be called into relationship and answered in that. When we open ourselves the someone else, we don't to be hurt or belittled for taking that chance.

While my brilliant housemate may have found the answer that all women want to hear on an online dating form, there might be a deeper one. It is not just wanting someone to be there for the best parts of the day, but someone to be there in the worst and care for you through those times. It's the ability to find someone to depend on, be that person a partner, a spouse, a lover or simply a best friend. We need someone who hears the song in our heart and is able to sing it back to us when we have forgotten what is sounds like. We just really want someone who cares.